That's a serious question.....HOW?!? I haven't figured it out.
We both work full time. We both work the same amount of hours. We both make approximately the same amount of money (I make a smidge more). So why aren't we both contributing to the house cleaning?
Most couples argue about money. Our fights are over house cleaning. He just doesn't do it!
Even what I consider "man jobs" like mowing and taking the trash out don't get done. It's been over a month since our yard has been mowed. I usually break down and take the trash out. I offer to mow, but then it turns into a fight over me "nagging" him. So I haven't said anything.......in a month. Our highs have been in the 70's so the weather shouldn't be an excuse like it normally is in the summer.
Most YouTube videos and other websites that bring up having an uncooperative member of your household usually suggest "cleaning for yourself". I do like my house to be clean, but it would be nice to be able to have an "off" day/week/month and know that it's not just going to be a month's worth of work piling up to the point I have to take vacation days just to clean.
I stopped doing my husband and my stepson's laundry in March of 2014 when I was halfway through my pregnancy with our youngest son. I just couldn't do it anymore. I was doing laundry for 4 people and the fact that the 5th person was on the way was just too overwhelming especially when I thought about the extra towels and sheets that go along with all those people.
My husband has a work schedule where he is home by 1pm. I get home at approximately 4:30pm. So that's 3.5 hours he is home before I am and he would wait until he went to bed at 8pm to ask me to wash his dress shirts for work. So he caught me on a bad day in March 2014. I had told him no before, but it never stuck. On this particular day, when he told me he needed work shirts, I responded with "That's nice." I could tell he was caught off guard so he said, "So you're going to have them clean for me." I said, "No."
This, of course, was the start to a pretty heated argument where I'll call it a win because I no longer do my husband's or my stepson's laundry. So now if my husband needs his shirts (or underwear or socks), it's his problem.
However, that's where my "winning" stops. I stopped doing his laundry and it works because that only affects him. If I stop doing anything else, it eventually affects me even if it's later down the road.
Is this a big deal for anyone else or should I just get my 1950's apron on and do my "womanly duties"?
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